Couples Counseling Can Benefit You And Your Partner During All Stages Of Life

By Stephen Daniels

San Clemente Psychologist | Marriage Counseling | Piper Walsh PhD

Couples who go to a marriage counselor do so for many different reasons. The majority of people turn to couples counseling only when they fear that their relationship is in danger and that something has to be done to either save it or to help determine if it can be saved at all. Some couples, however, are more proactive and use counseling to keep a more constant and impartial eye on their relationship dynamic, and to identify and deal with problems either as or before they take place - and before they completely undermine the relationship. Whatever the reason for seeking counseling, there are many things to think about as you look for the right counselor for the two of you.

Once you have decided to seek help, it is recommended that you both decide what it is that you want to learn from therapy. This will both help each of you as individuals discover how you view the partnership, and will help your prospective counselor to decide if he or she has the expertise required to help you. You should also decide as a couple whether you want a counselor who is male or female, married or single, young or old. Does it matter to you whether your therapist has ever been happily married, or divorced?

It's crucial that you check out the credentials and licensing of the person you select. Some credentials designate a specialty in dealing with couples and families. This could be extra education that is essential to helping you and your partner work out some complicated issues. Additionally, there are several different education levels ranging from licensed social workers to PhDs and even medical doctors. Credentials on their own do not necessarily indicate a counselor's ability to connect with each party and give quality care, but there are some differences in how each is able to treat certain issues. Some medical concerns, such as anxiety or depression might be indicative of a different kind of medical problem and might require all manner of diagnostic testing or prescription medications. For example, an MD can order relevant tests and can write prescriptions, whereas most counselors cannot.

One of the most important things to consider when it comes to family counseling is, of course, the cost. If financial problems plague you as a couple, it's important to consider what strain the added cost of a specialist might add to the mix. Several insurance plans cover some or all of the cost of couples counseling, however, so it is a smart idea to check your policy, and to make sure that the therapist you select will accept your insurance, or will bill them for you.

Choosing a therapist is much like a job interview, except that you and your partner are doing the hiring. When you meet each therapist, it's important to have a list of questions. Listen carefully to the answers. Putting the time and effort in to find the right person will give you as a couple the best possible experience in therapy. Remember that finding someone whom you both like and have confidence in is the key to reaching your shared goals.

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About the Author:

Author Stephen Daniels recommends the services of couples counselor Piper Walsh for couples needing help and direction. Piper Walsh has years of experience helping couples re-create loving, nurturing relationships and homes for themselves and their families.