Being able to recognize if your spouse is an alcoholic can be difficult in many ways. Understanding your partners drinking habits and your own possible role as an enabler can be as stressful to your emotional well-being as your partners alcoholism.
The first step is looking for patterns in their drinking habits. Do they drink everyday? Every weekend. Only on Sundays? Do they drink because the kids were screaming all day? Their job is particularly stressful that day?
Alcoholics in general tend to always come up with the same excuses for an excessive drinking pattern. A partner who just has the odd drink socially is not on par with one who always visits the pub regularly after work for a relaxing drink. If your partner falls into the latter category then I am afraid that he has become dependent on alcohol to a certain degree.
Many recovering alcoholics state that they always tended to blame someone else for all of their problems; their boss was difficult, their spouse nagged all the time, money was scarce. Instead of admitting to any responsibility, they drank their problems away. Has your spouse been blaming everyone around them for their perceived problems?
Alcohol really does have a negative effect on the family life as an alcoholic soon forgets his family commitments and responsibilities. Should you be feeling the brunt of the family financial burden then you may want to take a closer look at what your spouse is spending on booze.
There are many surveys out there to study, articles and books to read, and programs to watch that state if you answer theses questions as yes, then alcoholism is present. Unfortunately, every situation is different. Not only do you need to look at how much is being drank, but also what other behavior is causing problems in your family life. There is no easy answer but there is a lot of help for the spouse and family if they take the time to look for it.
The only comforting fact to come out of this really is that there are a lot more people out there in the same boat as you are and that this can be sorted out through their support and guidance. A great way to get started is by looking at the comments made by these people which can be found on the stopDrinkingAdvice.org blog and You will soon realize that you are not alone on this quest and that help is on the way.
The first step is looking for patterns in their drinking habits. Do they drink everyday? Every weekend. Only on Sundays? Do they drink because the kids were screaming all day? Their job is particularly stressful that day?
Alcoholics in general tend to always come up with the same excuses for an excessive drinking pattern. A partner who just has the odd drink socially is not on par with one who always visits the pub regularly after work for a relaxing drink. If your partner falls into the latter category then I am afraid that he has become dependent on alcohol to a certain degree.
Many recovering alcoholics state that they always tended to blame someone else for all of their problems; their boss was difficult, their spouse nagged all the time, money was scarce. Instead of admitting to any responsibility, they drank their problems away. Has your spouse been blaming everyone around them for their perceived problems?
Alcohol really does have a negative effect on the family life as an alcoholic soon forgets his family commitments and responsibilities. Should you be feeling the brunt of the family financial burden then you may want to take a closer look at what your spouse is spending on booze.
There are many surveys out there to study, articles and books to read, and programs to watch that state if you answer theses questions as yes, then alcoholism is present. Unfortunately, every situation is different. Not only do you need to look at how much is being drank, but also what other behavior is causing problems in your family life. There is no easy answer but there is a lot of help for the spouse and family if they take the time to look for it.
The only comforting fact to come out of this really is that there are a lot more people out there in the same boat as you are and that this can be sorted out through their support and guidance. A great way to get started is by looking at the comments made by these people which can be found on the stopDrinkingAdvice.org blog and You will soon realize that you are not alone on this quest and that help is on the way.
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